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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]I trust my kids to make the right choices and to call me if anything feels uncomfortable or is off.  In fact, I trust my kids more than I trust some parents.[/b]

That said, all teenagers will make poor descisions.  I was once a teenager and I fully remember how easy it can be to go along with your freinds.  So my kids know that if they make a bad decision (to get drunk lets say) but call me before they compound that bad decision further, the consequences will be relatively light.  [/quote]

In some communities, people know who the alarmist whackadoo parents are, and those parents lose credibility by their own doing. Why trust people who gossip and fear monger?  My teen knows better than that.[/quote]

Since when was saying a quick hello to the host when you dropped a 13 year old off at a strange house gossiping?  Or fearmongering?  OP didn’t ask if she should poll the entire PTA and get dirt on the hosts and speculate about the parents with other people. She was dropping a kid off and something felt strange and seemed off.  A middle school kid. Not a junior.  She asked if she should have asked to say hello to the parents. I think she should have. If your intuition is telling you something is wrong, it could be that something is wrong. Would I leave a 13 year old girl in a situation where an older sibling might have boys and beer in the basement and the parents are out for the evening?  No.

When my kids have friends over, I’m visible during drop off time.  If  kids are dropped off, I try to stick my head out and wave goodbye to them.  It just isn’t that hard to stay near the door for 15-20 minutes. [/quote]

PP here.  I agree.  My kids are not that age (not going through it right now), but I have seen the drop off used as a lame gossiping opportunity, and some moms are severely anxiety ridden, as PPs stated.  That's all, NBD.   I totally would "pop my head in" and "listen to my intuition" - that includes to fellow moms.  I know some people who have acted superior about their parenting (other PP) all along, then when something happens, they come tumbling down.  As long as you are realistic, there should be no problem at all.  I don't see what the outrage is against stating that some parents aren't realistic. As long as you concentrate on your own children, there should be no problem. [/quote]

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