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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I do think we were sent many flawed messages, but I also think it's up to us to deal with the outcomes. I too had the mother who said I would be anything I wanted, the teachers gushing over my work, the assemblies with the awards and the teachers saying we were the best and brightest and would change the world. Of course no one said that maybe parenthood wouldn't work out too well if both parents worked 12 hour days. Nobody said that we might graduate with PhDs at the top of our fields into a market where absolutely no one was hiring. Nobody said that we might have to just chuck our careers entirely to move to a new place so our spouse could get a job to pay the mortgage. Of course no one said all of this because it's frankly uninspiring stuff. But still, I'm raising my kids to consider both work and family success in their futures. For both boys and girls, I'm raising them to consider what kind of lifestyle their jobs will entail, and what kind of flexibility. Whether or not they grow up to have kids, they should know that life is more than lots of work for lots of money.[/quote]

+1 Gen Xer here.  My mom put so much pressure on me to achieve and be a doctor/lawyer/whatever because "When I was growing up, women could only be teachers, nurses, or secretaries."  So I spent $$ on grad school and ended up a SAHM b/c that's what I wanted to be and I should have just listened to my heart and not her.  I also wanted to be a teacher, but that wasn't okay because I needed to be more than "just a teacher".  I could have been a teacher for years before SAHMing instead of grad school and that would have been so much better for so many reasons.  Ugh.

I am trying to raise my DD with no expectations.   [/quote]

Yep I got to live the life my mother really would have wanted. I also got to figure out that women in the foreign service end up single unless they quit their jobs. I got to figure out how hard it was to work full-time and have young children. I went to a women's college and was also told that I could do anything. The funny thing is that now when I read my colleges  alumni magazine I see a lot of people living rather ordinary lives [/quote]

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