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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP.  I have been in your exact situation.  At a party with my boyfriend, I talked to a guy.  I had no idea who that guy was and certainly wasn't "flirting.". After party, BF accused me of flirting with other men.  When I said I wasn't, I was just being polite and trying to talk to people at this party who were all BF's circle of friends, BF explained that his previous GF cheated on him and alleged that the guy I had been talking to was somehow involved.  At the time, I accepted that story and somehow thought it was a one-time unique situation.  We continued to date, but over time his jealousy came up again and again.  When he proposed and I said yes, I literally said inside my head, maybe now he will feel more secure about us.

He never felt secure.  His issues escalated to emotional abuse, and I finally ended it permanently the second time he threatened to beat the crap out of me.

We were together for 8 years.  Engaged. Bought a house together.  I am SOOO glad I never submitted to his pressure to get married and have a baby. I would have never escaped him then.

In retrospect, I can see how he slowly started to emotionally abuse and manipulate me.  The earliest clues were the jealousy and intense and early insistence on exclusivity and saying "I love you" (like the first month of knowing him).  I wasted so much time thinking his jealousy had something to do with me or my behaviour (which was appropriate, but somehow, I thought, misinterpreted by him.)  It's practically a decade I wasted, and the after effects of the emotional abuse really warped my brain for even longer.

Please go no contact with him.  This is classic early abuser phase.[/quote]

Did you even read OP's post?  She was chatting up a bunch of men, and even admits she may have been flirting.  You don't go on a date with a new boyfriend and flirt with a bunch of other guys.  New boyfriend getting upset about her flirting with other guys (not one, multiple) in not him being controlling, it is him realizing that he is dating someone who is more interested in playing the field than being his girlfriend.  He was right to end the relationship.  [/quote]

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