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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I totally disagree with the idea that kids need to see you fight and disagree that the benefit from it.

It's BS made up by aults without any self control and who are totally self absorbed.

My parents believed in that crap and I got nothing from it but feeling tensed and stressed. Feelings I can't shake even today and I believe has led me to be conflict adverse.[/quote]

OP here. If your parents had terrible fights in front of you that was definitely inappropriate. But my own parents had disagreements in front of us and while of course I would have preferred that they always got along great, I think it was good for us to see them work through things in a mature way. [/quote]
DP.. I agree that it's normal and healthy for kids to see their parents disagree and work it out. That's how kids learn to handle conflict.  My DH and I never yell at each other in front of the kids.

I understand walking away when angry.  I need time to cool off, too.  I get very quiet when I'm fuming, and I can say some really harsh things.  But, I would never walk away from my children because of being angry with my DH.  If DH walked away from me AND the kids at such a young age because  he couldn't control himself, I'd be pi$$ed.
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But this was a recurring fight.  It seems clear that it wasn't going to be "worked out" during the walk to lunch.  It's not "healthy" for the kids to see the parents snapping at each other and not resolving anything. [/quote]
Disagree... it shows that people can disagree and be upset with each other but still love each other.  I don't always resolve issues with my children, but they know that I still love them.

And even if they weren't going to "work it out" during a walk, he shouldn't have left her with the kids on a sidewalk. That was poorly done.[/quote]

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