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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Here's the thing...many times having an affair is not one big choice to "have an affair." It's a lot of small choices that snowball and in six months you're having an affair. Right now you're like, it's no big deal for me to email her. No big deal for me to text her. No big deal for me to email/text after work on weekends. No big deal to have lunch alone. To have a drink alone. It's no big deal for me to give a hug. To give just one kiss. NBD to talk every day. NBD to meet at this conference...go to the hotel room...etc.

It's small choices that add up. If you want it to stop, stop it now. Today. Before your mind starts justifying all your actions and you start telling yourself, it's no big deal. Before you start rewriting your marital history in order to make your actions acceptable. I've been there. All of my small choices added up to an affair and it was by far the most hurtful and destructive thing I've ever done. I would not wish that pain on anyone. Also, Not Just Friends is a very good book. [/quote]

Exactly.[/quote]

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