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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is OP and I'm still reading.

Ok, I'm mostly upset and jealous because my son works a lot and my DIL just stops caring during the school year. Or she plans their weekend schedules during the school year according to what she wants to do. She's accomodating a little more in the summer, meets me halfway with kids or something but she is so regimented with the kids schedules in the school year. I feel like I just don't fit in. She never tries to get the kids together with me ever on a day my husband works. But she always sees her parents. Sometimes my husband and her see her parents on his days off.. It's a miracle when they make it to Sunday dinners. Maybe I'm jealous, but I'm sad. Why am I not important to her or my son, but they can meet her parents for Saturday lunch?[/quote]

Your son may work at an office more hours, but DIL is managing the brunt of the kids and housework. They are clearly both EQUALLY busy.

You want more, talk to THE SON YOU RAISED.[/quote]
But my point is that, she knows my son works a lot and doesn't have time to see me, or bring the kids to me, and she doesn't work as much AT ALL, but she can always find time to take the kids to her mom and dad. Why can't she find time to bring them to me?

I understand that she likes her mom more, and I'm glad the kids get lots of time with their other grandma. But it makes me jealous. I always get seconds. And there is nothing I can do because my son works.[/quote]

Of course she knows your son works a lot.  But that is HIS CHOICE.  If he wanted to work less, or bring the kids to you more, he would.  It isn't her responsibility.  And you aren't going to win her affection by blaming her for the choices of the son you raised, and demanding that she spend her limited free time compensating for his decision not to spend time with you.[/quote]

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