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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Doesn't really sound like you're looking to have a relationship with the kid, but just want to know if that's what's expected of you.

What's the woman's situation? Does she want you around or are you just a source of income?  Is she in a relationship?[/quote]

Honestly, I posted for outside perspective in response to your first sentence.  I mean, having a kid certainly wasn't something I planned for at this stage of my life nor, specifically, with this person.  I learned a very hard lesson that one should be selective even with regard to ONS.

I don't know what the woman's relationship status is other than that she isn't married or at least her pay stubs didn't indicate that she was although I suppose she could just indicate single on the pay stubs.  It didn't come up in the proceedings whether she was dating or seriously involved with anyone.

[b]I think it's at least partially about the money with her.  She's done a few shady things like trying to bill me for an entire medical bill rather than just the portion not covered by insurance.[/b][/quote]

Yeah, not telling you about the kid until after it's born and trying to squeeze extra money from you signals to me that she thinks you're a piggy bank and not a partner.

Sounds like a tough spot to be in, honestly. [/quote]

Exactly. Although he should have been smart enough to use a condom many women know men won't. She was banking on that and wasn't taking the pill.  Child support can be a nice addition to her income especially if the man makes quite a bit. Funny how OP forgot all about her, but she was quick to file a paternity suit. [/quote]

Was she quick? Do we know how old the child is? She waited a long time to tell him about the baby. Whether she "tricked" him into getting her pregnant, she did keep the info hidden and caused him to miss part of the baby's life, and certainly didn't allow him to prepare for the birth of his child. 
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If this was a one night stand, how do we even know she knew how to get in touch with him.  Or that she didn't try.  We only have his side of the story and I don't trust him.  But even if she waited a couple of years to reach out to him, does that absolve him of trying to do what's best for his kid?  I think not.  You can try to be pissed at the baby mama and blame her for this and that, and point fingers.  In the meantime, this kid needs a parent, like YESTERDAY. [/quote]

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