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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Grandparents (DH's parents) told us our kids wandering around in their undies or just shorts inside their house made them uncomfortable. Now we are scrambling to keep them dressed without making them feel weird about their bodies but I can't explain why they want them in clothes because even when they explained it I didn't understand. I just agreed to keep the peace. We've just started saying "grandma wants it this way".

They are 8, 7 and 4 and my grandmother actually said 'she isn't wearing a shirt and she is a young woman!' about the 7 yr old. I corrected her and said 'no, she is a little girl' but I don't want you uncomfortable so that's fine. They are all very skinny- as are his parents- no boobs in sight.

To be clear, it's just us and the grandparents. No visitors/other family. No huge windows where people can see in. My DH is perplexed and we are trying to think where/why this came from. They've never said a thing in our house in DC when they were shirtless. I'm starting to wonder if someone touched grandma as a child :([/quote]

Uh, yeah, they should be clothed at that age, PP. [/quote]

OP here, and I agree with the PP who agrees that the kids at that age should be clothed. YOU are actually the weird one, no-clothes mom. People are writing about their ILs meaning YOU in this scenario. Why would they not be wearing clothes-clothes, bathing suits and cover ups, or pajamas at least?[/quote]

I'm not no-clothes mum. Children do need clothes. They are clothed. In underwear, swim trunks or shorts on the bottom. For some reason that isn't enough. [b](I'm not talking about eating meals at the table without a shirt- we don't do that). [/b]Please explain because we are lost (and obviously DH grew up in their home and is annoyed but going along with it).[/quote]

Underwear is not clothes.  It is to "wear under" and not "wear" on its own.

Why no shirts?  [/quote]

This comment proves that you are being intentionally dense. You admit that they need shirts for eating, why? Because people usually wear shirts when they eat? Because it is polite and respectful to others to have on clothes? Because you are not at that exact moment enjoying an outdoor activity that is typically done shirtless? Any of the above explain why children of all ages should wear clothes in the home even when they are not eating. Especially if other family members you are vacationing with have asked.

Exceptions are made for babies who can easily start the day clothes and then 3 hours later have already gone through 6 outfits and you are just giving the f*ck up. But babies are also allowed to sh*t in their pants.[/quote]

Actually my point was the same as yours.  Underwear is not clothing to be worn in the presence of others.  AND shirts should generally be worn when with others.

IMO.[/quote]

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