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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]One and the same.  [/quote]
I agree, but at the same time, I'm a SAHM of school-aged children. It's summer so I am totally feeling the SAHM vibe - because it is all day, every day - but during the school year, I'm a housewife. Full stop.

Once the kids are on that bus at 8:45, it's me until I get them at 4pm. I'm doing stuff for the HOUSE, or stuff for me (the WIFE). There really is no "mom" in the equation for about 7 hours, unless of course someone is sick or school is out.[/quote]

Agreed SAHM of school age kids is a housewife. [/quote]

I respectfully disagree. After my kids go off to school, I'm still doing a lot of things that benefit my kids directly, although they are not with me. I may be volunteering in their school, grocery shopping, getting rid of the outgrown clothes and toys in their closets, mowing the lawn, taking the car to the garage for an oil change, picking up dry cleaning, taking the grandparents to doctor appointments, fixing random broken things around the house or searching for lost items, picking up books that have been reserved at the library, planning weekend outings/play dates or family vacations, taking pets to the vet, gardening ...
Both stay at home mom and housewife are misnomers. I'm hardly ever home. We need new terminology. Maybe "family manager"?[/quote]

But aren't most women the family manager? I work full time and do everything on your list except volunteer. I do a lot during my lunch hour. [/quote]
I'm the PP originally wuoted. I also volunteer occasionally at the school. But truly, out of the 35 hours a week in without a kid, the few hours I'm at the school don't change much. I'm not *with* my children. And every adult does the other things you listed, regardless of employment.

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We all have only 24 hours in a day, whether we work for pay or not. If you are working in an office during the day, you have to do all of the domestic chores in your non-working hours. Yes, you still do most of the same things that a SAHM does but it's squeezed into fewer hours, which means weekends are spent on household chores or that DH and kids have to pull more weight. As a SAHM, my family gets to enjoy our relaxed weekends together without scrubbing toilets or schlepping to Costco. You do you, I'll do me.[/quote]

THIS. Well said.[/quote]

Yeah, I guess I will be doing me. Specially since that means maintaining my sense of self that is not dependent on my kids nd husband (oh, the horror!) My career and my individuality is more important than my kids' ability not to go to Costco on Saturdays. Which we actually don't do, since I work full time, but only 3 days per week. [/quote]

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