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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You're thinking into it too much.  Look at it this way -- if she got the call from him last night that he was in the hospital, asked where you were, and then drove to your house to tell you "I'll stay with the kids so you can go be with your husband" after you had already decided to stay home with the kids because it wasn't an emergency, you would most definitely feel judged by her.

If you had wanted to be there and called her to watch the kids and she said no she needed to be with him, that's one thing.  You didn't, and when she heard he was there she went to see him.  [/quote]

This is all correct.

But OP, I'd be a little annoyed too most likely.  Mainly bc then I'd feel guilty I didn't go and instead went to sleep at home...[/quote]
I completely agree. And maybe this is the part OP finds "weird". It wasn't serious enough for the wife to go, but the mom went?

I mean, I get that she probably did enjoy the alone time, and did enjoy showing up for her son (though it sounds like the hospital visit was more a formality than necessary?) and I get that there aren't many opportunities to "mother" grown children. But I too think the long drive and late hour and nature of injury didn't warrant the mom showing up. It was nice, of course! But I too see where the wife is coming from. It sort of feels like the mom forcing herself on the son and throwing her "mom" weight around.   [/quote]

It sounds as though the injury was significant enough that he was admitted to the hospital.  Not just treated and released.  The fact that his mom drove 1 1/2 hours to get to him indicates that she thought that he was going to be in the hospital for at least a few hours.  If he was just getting some quick stitches I doubt that she would have driven so far and at such a weird hour of the night to get to him.

It was a minor enough injury for Op not to be too worried about him but significant enough for him to remain in the hospital for a while.  I can see why both Op and MIL did what they did.

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