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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]One and the same.  [/quote]
I agree, but at the same time, I'm a SAHM of school-aged children. It's summer so I am totally feeling the SAHM vibe - because it is all day, every day - but during the school year, I'm a housewife. Full stop.

Once the kids are on that bus at 8:45, it's me until I get them at 4pm. I'm doing stuff for the HOUSE, or stuff for me (the WIFE). There really is no "mom" in the equation for about 7 hours, unless of course someone is sick or school is out.[/quote]

Agreed SAHM of school age kids is a housewife. [/quote]

I respectfully disagree. After my kids go off to school, I'm still doing a lot of things that benefit my kids directly, although they are not with me. I may be volunteering in their school, grocery shopping, getting rid of the outgrown clothes and toys in their closets, mowing the lawn, taking the car to the garage for an oil change, picking up dry cleaning, taking the grandparents to doctor appointments, fixing random broken things around the house or searching for lost items, picking up books that have been reserved at the library, planning weekend outings/play dates or family vacations, taking pets to the vet, gardening ...
Both stay at home mom and housewife are misnomers. I'm hardly ever home. We need new terminology. Maybe "family manager"?[/quote]

But aren't most women the family manager? I work full time and do everything on your list except volunteer. I do a lot during my lunch hour. [/quote]

Yeah I don't get this either.  PP, all working parents do everything on your list.  AND work.[/quote]

Wait- I thought dual working families had an equal split of household duties? We hear that all the time on here!

ITA with you that many women run the home AND work full time and no- I don't want to do that. [/quote]

Good lord, are you always this literal, or is that the time out of the workforce hindering your processing speed?

My husband and I both do some of the things on that list.  The point is that working parents aren't exempt from grocery shopping, sorting old clothes, planning vacations, "searching for lost items" (SAHMs can find anything to justify what they do all day).  We're just way more efficient at it all.  And manage to contribute to the world and our bank accounts, as well. YMMV.[/quote]

Sounds like you're working too hard. Maybe you need a day off so you won't be so bitter, or jealous. Enjoy your contribution to the world. When I worked, I felt like I was irreplaceable and doing important work. Now, I realize the most important work is being there for my family. [/quote]

Jealous?  I have a significant personal net worth, and work by choice.  I work for personal fulfillment and because I enjoy using my intellect and yes, earning money.  I'm also there for my family, as my kids are in school until 3:30, go to an hour of aftercare or sports, and I pick them up between 4:30 and 5.  I go to every school event, field trip, etc - have never missed one because of work.  So how am I not there for my kids?

If being called "family manager" because you sort socks and "find lost items" makes you feel useful, go for it.[/quote]

New poster here. You may do all those things really well. I do. You may have all the money in the world.  Good for you. The problem is, at the end of the day you are still you. I sure as hell would not want to be the kind of person who wrote the above. And I do work outside the home. My SAH mom friends do not need to "find anything to justify what they do all day". What they are doing is vastly more important than anything I do at work. [/quote]

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