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[quote=Anonymous]There are many AA men nowadays who are scared enough of any interaction with the police.  If OP's husband truly felt that he was not implicated or not guilty, he may have avoided talking to the police out of basic avoidance.  If the police had the wrong contact information, he may not have known they were trying to reach him.  For example, I have changed offices and phone numbers regularly in my work.  At our work, every desk has a phone. If you are moved, you don't take your phone number with you, you change to the old phone number.  Only a few people who have frequent contact with customers retain their number so that customers have a consistent number, but most people in our organization do not work directly with customers.

If OP is the type that will listen and will repeat and sometimes get the story wrong or embellish, etc, he may be trying to protect her by not telling her anything.  First, in the event that he is a suspect, the less she knows, the less she can be charged with abetting the crime.  For example, if it is decided that he was impeding the investigation or obstructing justice in any way, she can't be complicit in abetting him if she knows nothing about the incident.  Additionally, he may want to avoid her being questioned and giving a different story than him.  He may be trying to keep her in the dark so that she cannot say anything contradictory to what he says.

I tend to agree that if he was guilty or event suspected that he was strongly suspected, he would have contacted a lawyer before the police came to collect a DNA sample.  My guess is he knew something was happening, but thought that he was outside suspicion so he didn't get a lawyer.  He didn't say anything to his wife because he didn't want her to be able to tell the police anything that might contradict anything he said (for whatever reason) or if she was the type to get stories wrong or even if she was the type to say something untrue if she thought she was protecting him, that he didn't want her to tell a different story or details.  And he was going to wait until things blew over or he was beyond suspicion before he said anything to her.[/quote]

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