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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I am so glad it was a positive experience for all of you.

You seem to have a very positive outlook on life![/quote]

Thank you, it was such an amazing time.  The brothers have invited my husband, daughter, son and his wife & son to come down for Thanksgiving.  They have a lot of airmiles and would liike to see all of us come down.  Depending on what goes on with my dad, we may go down.  My husband, daughter, son, daughter in law and grandbaby and I are going down to see him this weekend.  We are told he will pass soon and it is his birthday, so we definitely want to get down there.

This has been tough, especially with him not knowing.  I feel a sadness that will just have to be there when I look at him a) knowing he is leaving this world soon and b) the whole dna situation that he will not know.  I am actually glad we are able to protect him from it, but it's this sadness that I have no words for.  Maybe it's just my grief at learning he is not my birth father.  He will always be my Daddy though.  He has been wonderful.

If I had something as a bit of insight with all of this, it is this:
(I have already mentioned some of this)
I am not defined by who is in my bloodline.  My DNA only gives spectrums of tendencies, health, etc that a person will tend to be in.  A person may fall anywhere in that box, depending on their choices, environment, etc.  I have never been a person to color in the lines, though.  I choose to rise above and beyond what is "given" to me and find my own definition.  I teach my children the same.  What is that?  that their book has a lot of blank pages.  Their choices, above all else, will define where that story goes.  DNA?  Ok it's all good, it's good to know your background and those you are related to so that you may understand yourself more.  It can be quite romanticized and I was blessed to have a happy outcome.  There are some that will not have the same good result.  I urge them to carry on, knowing that regardless of their birth parents, etc, they can define to an even better degree who and what they are in life. Thank you to everyone that responded with comments or even just read this posting.  It was a great place for me to write, anonymously to protect the innocent and I suppose the not-so-innocent.  In times like this, it is wonderful to be able to share with others something that can be so turbulent and emotional.  Blessings.[/quote]

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