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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]From my experience the "good quality guys" are a hot commodity and the "good quality girls" usually make a bee line for them in college and the first few years out. In order to identify these guys early, you need to already have a good head on your shoulder and know whats what.

That dorky STEM major who isn't the "YAAAA BRUHHH" party boy and wears button downs at 20 probably comes from a "good" family with parents who care and invested in his personal and educational achievement. A good girl from a "Good" family will be able to identify this and date him even though many many girls would pass him up at that age.

By the time these people hit 30...this dory kid would have a stable career maybe not earning millions but will be supplemented by occasional help from parents etc. [b]He will also be married with a girl smart enough to see his potential when he was young and uncool.[/b][/quote]

I see my friends in their early 30s frantically looking for the kind of guy they couldn't be bothered with 10 years ago.  Then, they're bitter towards the women who have "landed" the kind of guy they want (what's so great about her? she got lucky! and so on...)[/quote]

For every uncool guy with potential who becomes "successful and financially secure" there are 10 who don't. It's a gamble. It may be the best way to go, but you'd better make sure you actually do love the person or else you may be looking at a very unhappy future. [/quote]

[b]Early 50s here.  Every single one of my nerdy and/or unpopular friends from college are making major money or are already retired having cashed in on the tech bubble 20 years ago.  All of them are married, to their original wives. [/b] 
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I think there is a myth in some cultures that this isn't the case (above), but it is.  The good guys have no interest in getting married more than once - they know exactly what the gold diggers are doing - they would rather be with their original wives who stuck by them before (the guy) had money. [/quote]

What you are saying is true but it's STILL a gamble for the woman to marry potential. I would suggest this path to my daughter (life is a gamble, after all), but I still think it's worth noting that the smart, shy guy in college is not necessarily going to be uber successful. [/quote]

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