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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How will you feel when your DH is happily remarried to a younger woman that your kids adore, living in a nicer house than yours, and spending holidays with your kids on fabulous vacations while you are single and alone (or celebrating holidays with friends since they take pity on you)? That's what I'm observing in my peer group, even though the women are relatively young (late 30s/early 40s), professionally successful, super fit and attractive.

Try harder to fix your relationship---starting with your own mindset---before jumping ship. [/quote]

No younger woman wants her husbands kids to tag along on fabulous vacations. Especially not when their own babies come along. Trust me on this. And on that note, making the kids hate the new wife is a piece of cake, too. [/quote]

I'm observing that kids end up liking the new mom. I'm observing lavish trips to Disney, Europe, etc. I'm observing you get second wives with great careers and money who don't want a kid of their own. And from what I can see on FB, they enjoy their time without the kids as well (50-50 custody). Meanwhile, the ex wife is living in a crappy rental and either struggling with dating losers on tinder or losers from the neighborhood/school district. They spend holidays with friends instead of their kids. They are stressed out and money is tight. I have yet to see an ex-wife thrive, yet I have observed lots of ex-husbands thrive in new marriages, dual income households.

And the impact on the kids isn't good. Sorry. [/quote]

I also see what you observe except in one case where she had an affair.  It took him a long time to get over it emotionally and start dating again.  He's doing okay financially and has a place of his own be bought, but he's not happy or thriving.  I encouraged him to seek therapy but he won't.  Hopefully he'll get over it.  He's attractive physically apparently as I've seen women approach him several times in person, but they can't deal with his depression and split as soon as they realize what's going on.  If he lightens up he will be good.  I hate seeing him like this though [/quote]

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