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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I agree with you OP. A removal simply isn't the same as battling it, chemo, etc. That is truly fighting for your life for a length of time.[/quote]
WTF?
OP, I'm so sorry you have had cancer touch your life in so many ways, but you do NOT get to tell someone else that their cancer doesn't count.
Cancer is not a competitive sport. Yes, her cancer was treated and she survived. That can be hard to hear because you have had so many losses, but she has a right to live and to say that she survived cancer, because she did. You do not get to regulate that. 
I've had a number or pregnancy losses, but I know  women who have had near misses and did not get to tell those women how to tell their story just because they got the outcome I wanted and did not get.
OP, I hope you are able to grieve your losses  and your pain and not blame your friend for living.[/quote]

Look, I am a cancer survivor.  I had stage IV Kidney Cancer. I had multiple surgeries to remove the cancer and metastases; I have lost one kidney and 1 lobe of my lung.  But, I had no chemo or radiation.  Why?  well, they don't know, a priori, what will work, so they need a tumor to measure against.  Since my tumors were removed post surgery, there was no treatment.  We waited for it to come back; they expected it to come back (90% chance).  So far (4.5 years), it hasn't.  I have been really lucky.  But, I am still a survivor.

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