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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your whole problem is summed up in the title, "DH won't give me 1 day off." He is not your boss, why are you asking him for a day off. Quite frankly, when you(and many women like you) stop being subservient and act like you are needing permission from your husbands to do ANYTHING, only then women will start having equal rights. What is the first thing to do is not give a damn if he will be upset. "I am off to the movies, see you in a few," is a great start. Pray tell me when did he ask you if he can go to the movies or do something else without you? I bet you never. Changing your own mind set is difficult, not rocking the boat is easier. If your DH is emotionally and possibly physically abusive, you are in a worse situation. Nevertheless, you first have to change yourself, his power over you stems from you giving him that power. If you take off and not give a damn, he has nothing over you. If he is abusive, you need to leave, you need to start preparing for that situation and make it happen. Yes, it is scary and hard. But, if he is just a regular sexist jerk, you need to  stop asking anybody's and his permission. Leave that baby with him and go out for the day, don't ask, don't apologize, if he doesn't take care of the baby and you come back home to a baby left alone and screaming, you need to leave that very minute and never look back. Seek a shelter, see a social worker right away. You need to be your own boss. It isn't easy but it is necessary. Good luck.[/quote]

Op here: Thanks for this. You're so right. DH never asks me to go anywhere. It's hard to let go of guilt when my baby has a hard time adjusting to a babysitter. I spend too much time feeling worried about the baby when I am away. I am not worried when she's with my husband though because he's really good with her. [/quote]

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