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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We have a new therapist we go to discuss issues we have been having. One of them is that I find his family hard to deal with. My MIL has never warmed up to me and she has the tendency to be a little out there. My DH, when I tell him about instances where she hurts my feelings, tells me I am not allowed to say bad things about his mom as that hurts his feelings. I feel frustrated because DH gets his feelings cared for, my MIL earns her respect and I get nothing. No one is caring for MY feelings.

When we went to our last appointment, my DH threw me under the bus and said I talk about his mom negatively and that hurts his feelings. Our therapist said that I am not allowed in any circumstances to talk negatively about his family as to him they will always be important and wonderful.

I was kind of confused...what am I supposed to do?[/quote]

You are supposed to learn how to frame your "feelings" and communicate them in an appropriate and positive manner. For example:
WRONG
Your fat old hag of a mother is such a bitch.
RIGHT
When your mom ignores me at dinner when I talk, I feel sad.

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