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[quote=Anonymous]I started dating DH at 22. Married at 25 when I graduated from law school.  Had kid at 27 & 29.  I just had my 18th wedding anniversary.  Kids are now 13 & 15.

Getting married was 100% the right thing for me to do, and I have never seriously regretted it or questioned the decision. I wasn't trying to get married young, or thinking of marriage when I met DH. It just happened when it happened.

Having kids before 30 was 80% the right decision. Looking back, I wish I had taken more time to travel and be carefree with less responsibility.  I was pretty young, and I should have had plenty of time to enjoy being in my 20s before the responsibility of kids.  But, as it turned out, I had very complicated pregnancies and both babies were premies, plus a couple of miscarriages. If I had delayed having kids, I might not have been able to carry to term.  In fact, I wanted a 3rd, but was strongly advised by my OB to stop while I was ahead.  So, I'm thankful I went ahead when aid did.

The nice thing is that I am in my early 40s now, and have reached a place where DH and I can go spur of the moment dinners, and date nights and movies without worrying about childcare.  My younger DC will head to college before I turn 50, with most of my children's college education save for.  So DH and I will still be young enough, and have the money available to travel and enjoy our freedom. Down the road, we will also hopefully be young enough to really be involved with grandkids.

The other nice thing was that I quickly realized that motherhood and biglaw did not mesh well for me, and went Fed.  I ended up doing something I love, low stress and with great work-life balance.  I probably could have been richer or more high powered if I had delayed kids, but I doubt I would be happier.

So, it worked for me.  But, like a lot of things in life, it is largely about choosing to be thankful for what you have, and not playing the grass is greener game. [/quote]

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