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This is so true.  Older people eat so much less and forget that this is not how they used to eat.  [b]I am also surprised by all the posters that have no problem going into a MIL's kitchen, stocking it with extra food and helping themselves, etc. I think that is a pretty rude houseguest.[/b]

I am very sympathetic to the poster, my mother is the same way.  She has completely forgotten how much more kids and younger adults eat.  She is no longer accustomed to cooking for more than two people or having people in her kitchen.  She is definitely a control freak, but I also understand how difficult it is for some older people to shift gears.  Every rattling of a wrapper, every time you open the fridge to look for something, she is in the kitchen in a flash to "help".

I don't have a great solution for you, but my approach has been: to realize this will be an issues so I try to focus on the other parts of the visit and not think about food too much, use it as an opportunity to lose some weight, feed the kids snacks on outings outside of the house, offer to take them out for dinner at least once a trip, offer to do more of the cooking so the portions are more appropriate.  That combination gets us through, but meals and food in general are definitely not a highlight of the visit.

And we stay with her because she really wants us to.[/quote]
Children and grandchildren are family. They are not houseguests.[/quote]
I have learned from DCUM that there are a number of women who feel that no one should be able to access food in the kitchen without asking permission, including teenage children still living at home. These people are also completely offended that anyone would ever eat a snack, and they are weirdly obsessed with the unnecessity of orange slices after soccer practice.[/quote]

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