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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I could possibly get over the initial lie (his stating he owned vs rented) if that was where the discussion had ended.  But he continued to lie, made up details, and carried on this fabrication for months or years.  There's no getting over that.  How will you be able to trust what he says about anything when you know he can so easily lie?[/quote]

Same here.  My ILs were happily married for 40 years.  My FIL was completely devoted to MIL and was an incredible caregiver to MIL as she was dying.  Yet, prior to their marriage, he didn't tell her he'd been married previously and had 2 kids for whom he gave up his parental rights and they were adopted by their stepfather.  MIL didn't find out until DH was 14.  I'm told things were rough for a while but they worked through it.  I don't know if I could have.  But, the difference between these two situations is that my FIL's as a lie of omission.  OP's BF actively lied and continued to build the lie.

That's a betrayal of trust I don't know I could get past.  You certainly shouldn't be getting married in 4 months.  Definitely get some counseling.[/quote]

Uh, I wouldn't just call that a "lie of omission."  This is possibly bigger than the lie about the house. [/quote]

Yea..that's quite a doozy. Nevermind the fact that he abandoned two children.[/quote]

FIL made a conscious decision not to tell my MIL of a crucial fact.  That IS a lie of omission.  I'm not downplaying it, merely categorizing it.  DH didn't really care much about it until we had our own kids.  He then found it unfathomable.  His dad had been his hero and, only then, did he realize what an awful thing his father had done.[/quote]

As a parent I wouldn't feel guilty for outing-- I'd feel like a failure of a parent for raising this adult who is a pathological liar![/quote]

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