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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Not to mention, people with diagnosed mental illness who seek treatment from a professional and comply with their meds are actually (IMO) far more stable and honest and reliable than the people with undiagnosed mental illness who are convinced they're fine and think it's "weak" to see a psychiatrist.

And mental illness is a broad category.  Most people have at some point in their life suffered at least a mild form of a mental illness (not all mental illnesses are chronic and lasting).  PPD is a mental illness, but it is treatable and usually temporary (if the person gets treatment).

Furthermore, there are plenty of mental illnesses that really don't manifest until there is a triggering episode, like a death in the family, job loss, having a baby.  It's virtually impossible to tell while dating or even in the early stages of living with someone whether or not a huge life change will trigger mental illness.

The only thing you can tell when dating with someone is whether or not they have a hangup about seeing a psychologist/psychiatrist or whether they think that it's "weak" to suffer from a mental illness.  IMO, those are the people to avoid marrying because they are the ones who will refuse to seek treatment if they ever have an issue.  They're also the ones who will usually refuse counseling when there is an issue in the marriage.  They tend to be the ones who are also oblivious to their own quirks and issues and, because of that lack of self-awareness, are difficult to deal with when there's an issue.[/quote]

This is brilliant.  Beautifully expressed--thanks to the PP who wrote this!![/quote]

Many mentally ill people don't believe they are mentally ill at all. That's a big part of the problem, they are so sick they are in a different reality. Good luck if that person is your spouse or parent to your kids. There is a lot of collateral damage to a family.[/quote]

You are an idiot.  I am mentally ill.  I have been since I was a teenager.  I have been going to regular therapy and taking medication for over 20 years.  I live a very productive life.  I never lost a job, never been evicted, never ever used illegal drugs.  I am divorced but I assure you that it has as much to do with my sorry ex as it does with me and very little with my mental illness.  Please stop commenting on things you know nothing about. [/quote]

Dealing with a spouses or parents mental illness is hard too. If they decide to go off their meds or start self medicating, the fam has to deal with the fall out. It takes a toll. It is destabilizing for a marriage or family, not to mention expensive.[/quote]

Sure, any chronic illness is destabilizing and expensive.  But the most dangerous is people who keep generalizing and spreading misinformation.[/quote]

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