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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here. So much to respond to.

When I say that he provides for us, I mean, he doesn't think "your kids, you pay".   He contributes to expenses without question or prompting even though mine are higher having kids.
I make a good amount of money. Slightly more than him actually. I do not need him for his paycheck. Not in the least.

My marriage ended because my XH had a drinking problem. Did I hide it from my boys and shelter them from knowing that their dad had a drinking problem, YES. 
Did they know the nights he didn't come home, NO. Did they go with me to get him out of jail after a DWI, NO.  Did my boys know the extent of their dads drinking issues, no but they aren't dumb.  My younger son was too young to pick up on it, but my older son, he saw him when he has been drinking. He also saw when I would take a drink away from my XH and dump it down the sink.  What my boys were told was "dad has personal issues and that dad decided that he need to move out and work on himself."

I worked very hard to buy him out of our home so that I could keep it for the boys and not disrupt their lives. 
Taking care of them has always been #1.

I met my fiancé 2 years after the divorce was [u]fina[/u]l, so a total of 3.75 years after my XH moved out. It's been 2 additional years, so 5.75 years since my XH moved out.

The issue at hand are my boys and their mental state.

I am the primary care giver. Yes, we split custody 50/50, neither of us pays either other child support, however I am the one making the dr appts, signing the permissions slips,[b] buying a car for my 17 year old[/b] and handling their day to day lives. My boys come first period.

In speaking with a friend recently and she said two things to me: Boys are so protective of their mothers for always, and They miss their family

Guess what, I miss my family too. You plan your LIFE with someone. But we were put into a situation. I did the best I could with it and am trying to make the most of our future, whether that be me single or me remarried.  However it will be, it will be me as a mom first. For always.

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Thought your kids were 7 and 12?  [/quote]

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