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[quote=Anonymous]OP - how much have you talked about this and in how much detail? As pretty much a single earning fed household -- I imagine you aren't maxing out your retirement or 529, right? Assuming your kids are 12-ish -- college is only 6 yrs off.

Sit her down and tell her - we need to save x amount more per yr. Talk to her about how working x hours/month allows her to bring home $Y - but if she upped that to 30 hrs a week, she'll bring in $Z amount more. Since you say she's in healthcare but works privately (so I assume something like home healthcare or the like), I assume she can pick up more hours without having to be at a full 40 hr week? If that's the case, don't let her pull any crap about being home for the kids bc middle school is SOOO tough (it's BS - there are middle schoolers w 2 WOHM parents and they turn out fine; sure sometimes it's nice to have mom home to discuss girl drama the moment you get off the bus but is it worth sacrificing 50k or 75k in income for the 2 times a yr the kid needs to have that conversation?? I'm sure the kid will appreciate that 50k much more when college time rolls around). In any event, being home for the kids isn't an issue given that she has a job option with flexible hours.

If after all this she doesn't want to -- it's bc she's used to a life of yoga, coffee, lunches, and most importantly NOT having a boss or any financial responsibilities on her bc it's your problem. In that case, I think you gradually start increasing 401k contributions, 529, IRAs - whatever isn't maxed out - and put her on a tighter allowance. If/when asked why, you let her know - as we talked about retirement and college is a priority so that's where the money has to go right now, sorry if that inconveniences your social life or clothing budget, if it's a huge problem for you - let's talk again how you can help the HHI.[/quote]

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