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[quote=Anonymous]I can't believe how many sahms on this site are making excuses for OP's wife -- that the trauma of not being able to have leisurely coffee with her friends every day in perpetuity is something he needs to gingerly tiptoe around.

The long and short of it is: OP had an oral understanding with his wife before they had kids.  He married her and had kids with her with the understanding that she would continue working.  It doesn't matter if OP makes $5 million a year.  If that was the understanding, and OP isn't happy with it, then OP has a right to be asking questions and expect his wife to work.

Regardless, there are a million reasons you could want your spouse to work, other than just for paying day to day bills. They include (things i have heard first hand from friends with sah wives):

- wife is less interesting now that she's just doing yoga and hanging with friends and doing PTA.  Not the same woman i married. 
- don't respect wife who doesn't want to work
- annoyed/jealous that wife just does yoga and coffee while i have to work all day
- disappointed in wife who backed out on our deal
- DH is super stressed having all the financial burden on him
- wife is spending more money not working than working. 
- every year wife doesn't work is a year extra i have to work for saving enough for retirement[/quote]

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