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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I love sex when he gets home from a business trip. Yes, it's grueling for me when he's away. 4 kids on my own is a lot of work. But that's the life we chose. I'm grateful that we were able to make those decisions. I miss DH when he's away, and I love knowing he missed me and still wants me after so many years. I know he's exhausted too, because it hasn't been a vacation for him. Long days, missing me and the kids, being around people he doesn't know or like, no home cooked meals, sleeping in a different bed... It feels good to reconnect with him physically and emotionally. And it's usually some pretty exciting sex even though we're both tired. Excitement to be together > exhaustion for us. [/quote]

This is really nicely put. I don't understand why people have to complain about the sacrifices they are making. They all chose their lives. You have children, it requires sacrifice. You have a demanding job that requires travel, that's sacrifice. No one has forced anyone into these situations. More importantly, everyone seems to feel entitled to be rewarded for these "sacrifices" they chose to make. I think that there should be a mutual understanding of the sacrifices that everyone makes to make a family work. It seems like you have that in your family. I'm glad that you are happy and in a good relationship.[/quote]

Thanks :) I still have resentment about his traveling. It sucks that I like to travel and he hates it, yet he gets to travel and I'm stuck at home. But again, that's what we chose. Some trips are harder than others, like the last trip when our pet died while he was away. Honestly though, it just makes the need to reconnect even stronger when he does get home.

For a while, we were going through a rough patch and he was pretty low drive. I really liked him traveling then. It was great because I had time to miss him and appreciate him while he was gone, and I could almost always count on goodbye and hello sex before and after the trips. 
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I spent 272 days in a hotel last year... and the two previous years before that weren't much different. I have always been grateful for my significant other who can deal with that. I absolutely understand the amount of sacrifice it takes for her to have to do everything around the house when I am gone, take care of the two pups, etc. And she always was understanding and grateful of me, while I was trying to build my career, and so, it's nice to see that there are those, who just have mutual respect and admiration for those things. Certainly makes life a lot better than just complaining all the time about what we don't have.[/quote]

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