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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I flirted with and pursued my husband. He adores and loves me and treats me like a queen every day. He is shy and would not have pursued me had I not made it very obviously known that I was into him. [/quote]

I think the above approach works.  It is not the same as "chasing" and bending over backwards.  It's basically what I did.  Keep in mind many men have fragile egos -- they are less like to ask out a woman if there is a chance they will be turned down.  They want a sure thing - ( I am not advocating being sexually "easy")
BTW- I am struggling with how to relay this life lesson to college age daughter. Anyone been there done that?[/quote]

I don't think that's true.

Many men want a prize. There's a cognitive bias that makes people think that something they invest a lot of time in has a high value. [/quote]

The want a prize thing: my understanding is that's how women think, not men. I have been interested in women and married the one based on their presence - appearance, personally, behavior - not their popularity. So I think you're wrong there.

The fragile ego/sure thing statement: relentless rejection is the reality. Just look at this forum. How damn often do women post about salary or job requirements in a guy that eliminate the vast majority of the available men in even an affluent jurisdiction? Other strict requirements? ([b]Men by comparison are merely looking for not fat, not horrible company, no vow of chastity, and not currently wanted by the law.[/b] Ok, in this state. For murder.)[/quote]

Men who are smart and educated are looking for a smart educated gal. Works both ways - smart educated ladies want a smart guy too. Intellectual mismatch gets old quickly.[/quote]

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