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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I flirted with and pursued my husband. He adores and loves me and treats me like a queen every day. He is shy and would not have pursued me had I not made it very obviously known that I was into him. [/quote]

I think the above approach works.  It is not the same as "chasing" and bending over backwards.  It's basically what I did.  Keep in mind many men have fragile egos -- they are less like to ask out a woman if there is a chance they will be turned down.  They want a sure thing - ( I am not advocating being sexually "easy")
BTW- I am struggling with how to relay this life lesson to college age daughter. Anyone been there done that?[/quote]

I don't think that's true.

Many men want a prize. There's a cognitive bias that makes people think that something they invest a lot of time in has a high value. [/quote]

The want a prize thing: my understanding is that's how women think, not men. I have been interested in women and married the one based on their presence - appearance, personally, behavior - not their popularity. So I think you're wrong there.

The fragile ego/sure thing statement: relentless rejection is the reality. Just look at this forum. How damn often do women post about salary or job requirements in a guy that eliminate the vast majority of the available men in even an affluent jurisdiction? Other strict requirements? (Men by comparison are merely looking for not fat, not horrible company, no vow of chastity, and not currently wanted by the law. Ok, in this state. For murder.)[/quote]

I do not know ANY man who thinks his girlfriend is a "prize that he had to win over with hard work." lol. What kind of strange narratives do women feed themselves?

Guys are super easy and NOT vert picky. If you are anywhere from a 5-10 on a scale of 10 and demonstrate interest in him he WILL date you! Even the ugly women if they have warm nice personalities can get a guy!

LOL. This forum is full of blind women leading the blind and spreading inaccuracies!

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Honestly, if you're just fit men will line up at your door.  You really don't even have to be overly attractive.  Get a trainer/nutritionist and spend 3 months getting fit and guys will fall all over themselves to ask you out.[/quote]

This.

You need to not be super beautiful or super amazing or super smart.

Look at the women who come on Say Yes to the Dress.

Guys are not picky! Women are!

If a woman is single it is because she is getting in her own way.

Any normal looking woman (and hell, even the uggos) can get most men on the market while there within the age range of 16-45.[/quote]

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