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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So...GF was laid off five weeks ago.

She has had some interviews but does not seem to be showing the effort that OP wants to see.  OP and PPs assume all kinds of negative things about her - she wants to be a kept woman, she is unmotivated, etc.

OP, you should leave her now.  Not because of how she is but because of how YOU are.  Sending her job links is BS.  And the fact that you are bragging about it like you are doing something significant is the red flag for me.  Because the message it sends to her is that you are unhappy with HER job situation -  it is a passive aggressive gesture.

Being laid off is depressing and humiliating - especially to someone who is self sufficient.  She IS trying - she has obviously applied to some positions that SHE is interested in.  Once someone is laid off, they start to question their career path - it is a big soul searching time.  Unless they are in dire financial straits, they are not going to apply to EVERY job that they are remotely qualified for.  You sending links adds pressure to the mix and, TBH, just as you are questioning marriage to her, she is probably doing the same regarding you.  If your solution to her crisis is to bombard her with things that YOU think she should do, I am sure that he is rethinking things too.  You want to be helpful?  Ask her what she needs you to do to help her and just be their as a strong shoulder if she needs it.  But do not step in an try to take over because she is not moving fast enough for you.  It is her life and her career.  [/quote]

You missed OPs update - it has been ten weeks, and he stopped sending links five weeks ago apparently.[/quote]

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