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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just break up with her. You son't seem to think much of her. She is not right for you and you are not right for her [/quote]

You guys are not a good fit.

Frankly I was fired from Biglaw and acted like your GF. It was my furst big failure and I was so ashamed and depressed. I holed up, was in denial about the situation, avoided reality with mindless TV watching or Minecraft, stopped all social contact. About a month or two I filed for unemployment to pay bills but did the minimum. Under the excuse that I was reconsidering whether a legal career was right for me, I spiraled down the hole of trying to find the best career for me, through books and online sources. I was too ashamed to go talk to real people. Eventually I really had to earn more, so I got into temp work. I actually worked long hours but kept on delaying the search for a real job.

3 years in, I met my DH. He was supportive about me finding a new career or new job, he told me to get out of temp work. He does not have procrastination or depression issues. He is a man of action and my procrastination (which I'm told is a defense mechanism) bugs him to no end. I improved but in high stress times, my head in the sand tendencies pops out again.

Basically your GF deals with high stress this way. You tackle it rationally and promptly. She will be like this in a lot of major stressor situations. It will annoy you to no end. It's not a good fit for you.

Get out. It's a red flag. [/quote]

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