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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So, to the people on this thread who actually consider their marriage to include this dynamic:

Please give some examples of how this dynamic plays out in your every day life. What is a decision in which the dominant spouse makes the call? What input does the submissive spouse have into that decision? If the submissive spouses's desire is different from the dominant spouse's opinion, how is that difference resolved?

In thinking about my own marriage, some examples I can come up with are things like this. My husband makes about twice as much money as I do and sometimes, he wants to buy things that I don't see the point of/think are too expensive/would suck up money I'd rather use for other things. Provided that the other things I'd rather do with the money are not essential things, I generally let him buy the thing he wants to buy, knowing that he works really hard to earn a ton of money. I do ask him to explain the purchase to me so that I can understand why he wants it, and I explain to him why I don't think it's a good idea. It is OUR money, but since he brings home a lot more of it than I do, if he really wants a thing, if we do not need the money urgently for something else, and if he listens to my objections and still wants it, I let it happen.

He basically submits to me in all matters pertaining to childcare and management of the house. I do the shopping, meal planning, and cooking because I'm good at those things and he's terrible at them. If I need him to do stuff around the house, I tell him what the stuff is and how I want it done and when I'd like it to be done by, and he makes it happen.

I would not say that either one of us is dominant, though, and mostly these are not huge decisions being made. For huge decisions (e.g., buying a house or a new car), we have to agree before anything will happen.[/quote]

I'd say some variation on this is probably where 90% of people in the bell curve of dominance in marriage fall. [/quote]

Yup DCUM bubble strikes again lol[/quote]

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