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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]NP. Another big law attorney here. Yes, she can, but only as part of divorce proceedings. [b]When I divorced, I made my husband agree to a clause in our settlement that barred him from having any significant other around our children until they had been dating for at least three years. [/b]I also barred him from bringing any friend (except for those listed in the agreement) around our children without prior approval from me. I agreed to be similarly bound. I also had a fine (and reimbursement of attorneys' fees needed to enforce the clause) attached to each violation. These clauses expire when our youngest child turns 14. It has been 9 years since our divorce and we have done well for the most part. I had to enforce the clause once when he had a girlfriend of several months skulking around our kids and was claiming she was just a tenant. I gathered evidence she was more than a tenant. He called my bluff regarding enforcing the girlfriend clause, so I went to court and had him enjoined from having her around the kids. And I enforced the fine (no attorneys' fees because I handled the matter myself). You can do a lot with a settlement agreement, but an agreement is only as strong as you are. My ex knows I will strangle him and send his soul to Hades if he brings any of his shady friends, exes, nextses, and drama around our children. [/quote] PP, I think the bolded idea is reasonable . . . but three years? That seems excessive, and punitive. How did you arrive at this number? Also, how did you "make" your ex agree to this? [/quote] I can answer that. My gf had unlimited money from her wealthy father. If ex didn't play nice she'd take him right back to court. He got tired of large bills to his attorney and finally realized it wasn't worth being broke.[/quote]
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