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[quote=Anonymous]Op. did you say that you have only been back I. The work world for one year?  If so, let me tell you my story.

I too stayed home for 5 years after my kids were born. I went back to work full time when they were 5 and 3 yo. I have been back at work for 3.5 years now and typically have overseas travel for 1-2 weeks 2 x a year and an odd domestic trip thrown in there. Last year I had three overseas trips and one domestic trip and it almost did me in.

My DH is a high level attorney at a company ranked within the top 15 Fortune 500 companies. He cannot TW and has very little flexibility. He never travels anymore (used to have foreign trips as well). We have a part time after school nanny who helps 2-3 afternoons a week.

As I said I have been working for 3.5 years now. This school year I started to feel burned out because I work full time but am the default parent because I TW 2 days a week and have more general flexibility than DH. So I do after school stuff, manage family appointments, groceries (now use delivery), cook (DH Gets home too late to cook dinner), etc. DH is great but just isn't as available as I would like him to be. He brings in 70% of our HHI, so we deal with it. But, my agency let me take 3 hours of leave without pay each week so that I only work 37 hours. That has helped relieve a lot of my stress of working and parenting.

I have been headhunted for a job in the private sector that would likely pay me 2x what I make now (I am a Fed) but would also include a lot of travel and long hours. Just thinking about doing that kind of job makes me depressed. As exhausting as life is now, it would be so much worse with that kind of job. Travel is TOUGH when you have a family. It really is. Even domestic trips take their toll. And frankly? As much as I hated being a SAHM for the last 3 years that I did it, I looove the stage of life that my kids are in now and the role that I play in it. Even if DH were able to cut back and fill that void, I would miss that a lot if I were to go after the bigger job. And I do think that my kids would miss their mom.

So, you will do what you want, but I am giving you a realistic look at what this could mean for you and your family.

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