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[quote=Anonymous]I agree that after running the numbers to see what financial benefit you would be getting, you need to see what the emotional and relationship numbers are. 
If you do this your DH has to understand that he will be signing up to be the "go to" parent for at least 2 weeks a month when he isn't traveling. That means sick days, Dr appointments, etc. 
I have friends who went back to work after being SAHMs because the DHs promised to help out more. That last about 3-6 months and slowly but surely they were back to doing everything they did as SAHM only they also worked. The DHs slowly pulled out the sick days, snow days, Dr. appointments, parent/teacher conferences, grocery shopping, cooking, laundry, etc. the list goes on and on. I had 2 of the 3 quit their jobs within a year to go back to being SAHM. While the notion of working wives sounds great to most husbands, the reality is, if they haven't been pulling their weight at home they are unlikely to realize what that exactly means and be willing to make the changes to do it. One husband said he didn't like that his coworkers knew he was taking off to take care of sick kids all the time so started saying he couldn't do it anymore.

Anyway, no one can make this decision except you and your husband. Personally, i love my job and wouldn't want to give it up, it makes me a better mom. However, the thought of working MORE and LONGER is tiring to think about. I have a supportive husband who doesn't travel for work and even I think it would be hard to live out of a suitcase for 3 days a week. Not for me for no amount of money. 
It doesn't sound like you guys need the extra income, it would just be nice. Decide what you are willing to give up to get it. Talk to your kids and present a REAL picture of how their lives will be different (good and bad). You need an entire family buy in on this descion no matter what you choose for it to work (you not being resentful and them not feeling abandoned) [/quote]

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