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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I STILL dont understand why your husband expected anyone else to pay his tuition but him??

His parents felt YOU should pay it, YOU felt they should pay it, but why wasn't anyone expecting HIM to pay it??

He sounds helpless!

Please explain to me why someone else had to pay this loan for him, because HE is the one you should blame for this!

HE could have told them to treat you better, but he didn't.
HE could have paid his own student loans, but instead he pitted you & his parents against each other & each of you expected the other to pay for it, BUT WHY DIDN'T HE???
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He was, but at the rate he was doing it it would have taken 30 years. [b]Maybe I should have just let him[/b].[/quote]

I'm the person you quoted above & I have to tell you, this is THE smartest thing I've heard you say in this entire post, OP.

It sounds like he was more than content to let his family take the blame for this whole tuition thing, because by doing so it takes the blame off of him.

It sounds as if he was more than willing to allow you to pay for it.  He could have said "NO, I'll do it" but he didn't & by doing so, he also allowed you to keep your hatred for his parents alive.  He knew that if you ever stopped blaming them, your sites would be directed right at him.

What kind of man expects either his mommy & daddy OR his wifey to pay his way and those are the only two options?

I have to tell you OP, I think your anger has been displaced for the past 20 years & he's been more than happy to allow you to fuel your rage at them, so it wouldn't be turned against him.

He is who I'd really be upset with, not his parents.[/quote]

In retrospect I was young and was thought that debt was a really bad thing. I had to get over that eventually or we would never had owned a home.[/quote]

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