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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]DH and I have always split the household chores equally.[/b]  I want this to change when I stop working after our child is born - [b]I want to do less.[/b]  We have a cleaning service that comes in once a week and do a lot of ordering of supplies online.

Basically, I want to do only what a good nanny would do in terms of spending all the baby's waking hours engaged with her and her napping hours either napping myself or doing her chores (baby's laundry, food prep, etc).  I want to do classes with my child, go on play dates and not think about the house at all.

Is this possible?   DH is all for it right now but...   [/quote]

So who is going to do more when you do less? Household chores don't just disappear because you now have a baby. In fact, they multiply. More meals, more dishes, definitely more laundry, and yes, the house doesn't clean itself. So you're saying that you want your DH to do more? On top of working? So he comes home after a day at work, and he will start cooking, cleaning, doing laundry, yard work, home maintenance, car maintenance, paying the bills, making appointments, etc? Let's say that he agrees, and that this will work. When will you spend time with your DH? Also, I am assuming that you will want some "me" time for gym, girlfriends, hair, nails, whatever. When are you going to get that in? Is it while your DH takes care of the kid while cooking and doing laundry? Check back with us in two years and let us know how that works out. 
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I love the concept of focusing on child rearing, but honestly, you need a staff for that. Full time housekeeper, like Alice from the Brady Bunch.  I grew up in a family with staff; my mom never did anything but garden, go to her club, volunteering (this was back in the days of benign neglect of kids). If you want to fill your time with child-centered activities, I think that's lovely, but practically, you need someone to cook, clean, do laundry, mend/fix things, manage household needs (shopping, etc).[/quote]

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