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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm Jewish and My husband comes from a very conservative Christian family.  They were so welcoming and delighted to meet me with open arms, wether I converted or not.  They actually thought it was very cool that I was Jewish.  This is how it should be OP- not only were you out of line to ask her to consider converting,  but your family just seems awful!![/quote]

I call bullshit. Jewish families do this ALL THE TIME. Is THAT OK? Come on, this is a matter of a family wanting to protect and honor their lineage/legacy. My best friend (Jewish) says the same thing of most Jewish parents wanting that very same thing. I know many cases where Jewish parents pressure the non Jew DIL to convert (and often they do). Is that OK? This is hypocritical it isn't even funny. I get it and think there is nothing wrong with it.[/quote]

+1. This is INCREDIBLY COMMON in Jewish families. [b]My ex-boyfriend's family forced our breakup (he's Jewish, I'm not) by threatening to withhold funds that he needed for a life-threatening medical emergency. It was "we'll either help with your medical needs and you break up with her because she isn't Jewish or we cut you off, end your medical treatment, and you risk death, but you get to be with the non-Jewish girl." [/b]For his family, converting wasn't even good enough. To this day, I am still disgusted by what his family did, how they treated him, how they treated me, and and the the overall situation they put him in. Nobody should have to make that decision and no parent should put their child in that type of situation. But Jewish families quite often do threaten to cut their children off, and worse, if they marry outside the tribe. It's not okay when they do it and it certainly isn't okay right now as OP's family is doing it. [/quote]

Bwahahahaha, you've gone utter cray-cray now.
Uh.. this is the real reason got were broken up with sweetie, not because you're not Jewish.  [/quote]

Having grown up in the NY area, I find pp's story quite believable actually.  It's not the same level, but one of my good friends was forbidden from attending our prom because he wanted to take a non-Jewish girl.  His parents did not strike any of us as that serious about their religous beliefs, but he was absolutely not allowed to date outside his religion, or even attend a single event with a girl who was catholic. [/quote]

+1.  This is really not a rare occurrence among Jewish families.  I'm not Jewish but have dated Jewish guys and, yeah, the in-laws were not fun.[/quote]

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