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I don't blame you for feeling bad at all.  Many of the posters are not responding to you within your son's performance context.  What your kid accomplished is very hard to do.  And I'm sure there was a lot of sacrifice of fun, parties, just down time.  And he's going to feel poorly when kids that didn't do as well academically or work as hard get the choices that he wants for whatever reason.  The thing is that through his hard work he will have earned options that in the end will serve him better.  The competition based on hooks doesn't end with college admissions...he will face the same for clubs, jobs, networking as those same demonstrated college values carry forward to campus.  Where he will end up is a school that will value him for what he brings and that's a better and happier learning environment.   AND...this is not saying he should not apply to some reach schools.  Additionally though I would look hard at schools like University of Michigan which has to be stats driven due to their sheer size.  They have an excellent honors program in addition to excellent engineering and business schools.  Also UChicago cares very much about high academic performers and their essays.  Columbia has a tough CORE which mostly attract kids not afraid of a LOT of work.  Plus they both have Early Decision now which helps a lot.  CMU/Harvey Mudd/Caltech if he leans Stem.  UMD although it's actually very hard to get in instate.  If he is first generation to college that will be a consideration for any IVY depending on which Asian origin.  Also many of the Ivies seem to be focused on extending their reach to lower income public schools plus I've seen relatively high admission stats from magnets for schools like MIT.  So don't lose heart, get determined, do your research (yes all those parents who say their kid did it all may be stretching a bit) and encourage your son to apply widely so in the end, he has choices.  Also though, don't let him fall in love.  When you're Asian in this current environment you have to use your brains not your heart.  In the end, I promise you it will work out for a kid like him.

P.S.  I wouldn't place much credence on posters that are replying to your angst based on their own outdated experiences.  Most of us wouldn't get into the colleges or grad schools we did.  Try to talk to parents that just went through the process for slightly older siblings.  [/quote]

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