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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We moved my mom kicking and screaming. I did not like the place my brother chose but I was overruled. Now I get seriously 50 calls a day of complaining. Going home is a no go. She need medical supervision as she doesn't like medicine and it is necessary. What to do? I feel so guilty but I know she cannot live on her own. My brothers just block her calls and go on with life. I am exhausted and drive up and back once a week to see her (three hours each way).  She is not trying to make friends. Just complains. Other people in this situation and what to do? Living with me not an option for my own sanity as is moving her here.[/quote]

You need to do what your brothers do: block her calls when you need a break. Visit her when you feel you can tolerate her complaining. [/quote]
This is awful! Send mom to assisted living and then block her calls?!? Who are you people? I don't have much advice, but are there geriatric specialists in counseling that could help?[/quote]

"Who are you people?"

I know who you are. Someone who doesn't have a parent in assisted living or living with them. Your patience with dear old mom would erode to zero over the course of a single day.

If you are not in this boat, STFU, you have nothing to say, you are as bad as people with no kids giving parenting advice.[/quote]

+1 there are a lot of elderly people who want to do things their way or the highway. I've seen elderly relatives who wanted their children to jump through hoops to keep them in their homes. Being in a house without real help wasn't working but the elderly relative would never consider assisted living with a bus to the mall every day. It was better if their adult children went out of their way to take them out. The elderly parent did little to nothing to make it easier on their adult children. It was the adult children who had to sit in traffic every weekend, make all of the phone calls, help out with food, hire people, etc. all to keep the elderly parent happy. Some elderly people just won't budge. They love it when their kids are toiling for their benefit.

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