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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=AdamGamecock][quote=Anonymous]OP, my honest opinion is that you wanted to "seem" like you were up for sex but you didn't really want to do it. Everything you've said so far sounds like sabotage.  Let's be honest, you didn't really want to have sex with your husband did you?  [/quote]

Bingo! This was more of a "test" or "game". He chose not to play and I can't blame him. Communicate directly with men. Don't hint or beat around the bush. [/quote]

Man here. It was a manipulative game and he had no idea it was even happening. Men don't care about the house being clean or the relatives all in on a 5 year old birthday party. That's the woman's world view and priority. Men are just as happy walking around a cluttered house eating food on a napkin with a toothpick. They figure you are having a great time buzzing around creating your ideallic stereotyped environment and that it brings you so much pleasure, you are ok with not having sex. You are never going to get him to happily join in on the fetish he doesn't really care about.  He figures he works his ass off in big law which is a royal pain in the ass making big money and he needs downtime to continue competing. He innately senses many women would kill to have him provide and foolishly believes some of them may not be so non verbally manipulative.[/quote]

That's pathetic, PP. It is absolutely pathetic that a grown man cares more about his own down time than spending time with his kids, participating in his household, etc. I am certain that OP's husband enjoys the house being clean. I'm sure that he also reaps the rewards of her work on things like kid birthday parties and making dinner. He would, no doubt, complain if those things stopped happening, even if he was permitted to go to the gym and get his precious, precious down time.

It is a daily reality for many women that we spend our days at offices and then come home for another 6 hour shift at home with partners who think that once they finish their work day, it's now time for them to engage in whatever pleasure activities suit them. It is disrespectful as hell that they do not notice or care that their partners are doing all the work at home. Making a lot of money does not exempt you from being a full participant in home life, and sitting around watching TV after having a leisurely workout and eating dinner that someone else made for you while you were not taking care of your own children makes you a shitty partner. I literally do not care how much money you make. It's selfish.[/quote]

Damn right and it's the story of my life.[/quote]

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