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[quote=Anonymous]If this came out of nowhere is it possible she was just hormonal or emotional or handled this "big" conversation a little clumsily?

I'd give her the benefit of the doubt and re-do this conversation.

If you think you have a real future and see yourself potentially marrying her tell her that. If you don't want another child, tell her that. If you love her, tell her that. Ask her why she wants another baby and listen to her. Is it about the BABY part? Is it because she feels your thing is invalid unless you have a kid that's 1/2 her and 1/2 you? Remind her that if you get married, you'll both gain a child (and TBH, her in more ways than you, because even though she wouldn't replace your late wife she would be the de-facto mother figure for your daughter).

Does your daughter like this woman? Can you see her being that mother figure? If so, express that you can envision that, and say that if she is willing you can take steps to see about living together. But first, get on the same baby page, even if that page is "let's see." If you are adamant about not having another kid, do get a vasectomy: it's what you need to do to protect your daughter vis-a-vis your emotional health. [/quote]

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