Reply to DH and I constantly fighting over child care

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "DH and I constantly fighting over child care - how do you do it?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]12:30 again.  Your arrangement sounds so unbellievably one-sided and, yes, unfair, I don't know what to say if he cannot see it himself.  And I say this as someone with two small kids whose DH is training for a bike race as well.

How in the world does your DH think it will even out over time?  Does he have plans to take over all morning and weekend day care of your DS once he race is over?  Can you ask him to pick commitments -- if you are going to wake up with DS, he puts DS to sleep?

I am assuming you are just wild about your kid and that the issue is that you do the vast majority of baby care while your husband gets to have fun and not change his life.  If this is not the case, then obviously there are bigger issues (for you) here.  I am also assuming that there isn't a particular activity you really want (e.g., gym in the morning, book club, dinner 2X month with a friend, etc) -- otherwise you would be discussed that rather than hours.  I think you should pick something and just do it anyway.  It may feel like a chore, but it will be good for you to get in the practice of asking for and taking what you need to recharge and be a good mom.  It will be a good reminder to your DH that it isn't just his social needs.

And ignore the martyrs who say they never get a break, but I think you figured that out already.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics