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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. This thread can be closed basically. She texted back. She was honest. She wasn't feeling it. FML. [/quote]

I think if you take anything from this thread is that you need to work on yourself.

The biggest thing I see from all your posts is insecurity. I can't say where it comes from, but it is there. Really and truly take a look at yourself, and I don't just mean your job title and the money you make etc, but the inner you. Work on that.

Also ask a trusted friend or relative someone who you know has your best interest in mind but who can be brutally honest with you.[/quote]

I just know what I want. I wish that were 1 out of every 3 women I meet, but when it's more like 1/100 it sucks. It is, what it is. But I am secure enough to know that it's better to push on single and with my dog than compromise for a second tier connection. =) All's fair in love and war. I wish I could ask her what I have to improve about myself to have made a different connection. I'm all for self improvement. [/quote]
Not PP, but knowing what you want doesn't mean you aren't insecure. If you felt you were bringing the qualities to the table that the type of woman you want values, you wouldn't be trying so hard to sell yourself. A number of people have said it, something seems a bit off, separate and apart from your Asian preference/fetish. 
[b]Why dont you believe you can get the type of woman you want just by being yourself[/b]? Once you answer and address that issue your luck will change.[/quote]

It's a numbers game. If I were in NYC or Northern California where my *type* was 30% of the population I'd like my chances. But, the infrequency of encountering a date that makes me really feel it from the get go in my current city (not DC) means that I get nervous, feel extra pressure to perform, and then flub it. If I lived outside of Cupertino, CA I'd be out on another date right now and have forgotten about this one. Sadly, I'll swipe right 1000 times in my current city before I match with one on her level.[/quote]

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