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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]12:05 again. If it's not enough to just do the right thing, know this: if you have an affair, it will not end well, no matter how it goes. If one of you falls for the other, but it's not reciprocated - no good. If either of your spouses find out - no good. If you fall in love with each other and decide to divorce your respective spouses, you will always have guilt, and probably the scorn of more than a few people. There is no positive outcome from an affair, ultimately.

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This. Exactly. You don't mention children, but if you have children, they will find out sooner or later and you will lose their respect for the rest of your life. And are you ready for friends, family, co-workers, etc. to whisper behind your back until the end of time that you are cheater? For scandal to follow you like a cloud? Many friends will have nothing to do with you once they know. 
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I won't argue that affairs are destructive but I think you overestimate how much other people will care.  No one will whisper behind your back until the end of time. People are way too focused on their own lives to care about what you did or didn't do. Nothing will follow you like a cloud and your friends won't care.  We just aren't that important to anyone else.

Also, if I found out either of my parents cheated, it wouldn't change how I feel about them in the slightest. [/quote]

My parents divorced because of cheating. I despise the cheater and deny all contact. I despised the cheater even more after I grew up and knew what marriage was.

So no, maybe not "everyone" will know about what you did and lose respect for you. Just the most important people in your life (relatives, children).[/quote]
This was your experience, it doesn't have to be the case for everyone. My parents are still married and if I found out either of them has stepped out, it would not change how I feel about them.  Affairs don't have to lead to divorce and children don't really care what daddy or mommy did as long as daddy or mommy was good to them and gave them a comfortable intact home. I'm just saying.  Don't project your own feelings onto children, they have their own feelings. [/quote]

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