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[quote=Anonymous]What the F&%&???  NO!

First of all, I am actually in a situation like this right now.  I am the ex-wife with custody of kids, with a controlling and abusive ex.  He didn't take a lot of interest, then decided to sue me for full custody three full years after divorce was settled and over.  I am dating a man out of state who has a job tied to where he lives.  I have been told EXPLICITLY by my attorney that if I tried to move now (and our recent custody case has been over for three years and I have retained custody), I would most likely lose custody of my children since a judge would see it as not in my children's best interest to move them out of state.  Even if it is good for me, even if the place we would move has more to offer the kids, even if I flew them back to my ex for every visitation.  (I am the one with money, btw, so I could fight it or arrange it so I would pay for the travel for kids).

Bottomline:  no way in HELL I would ever risk losing custody or having some sort of "token" 3-4 visitations.  That is insane.  They are my children, my flesh and blood.

My BF is looking for jobs here but will be a significant uphill battle and a huge change for him.  But we are BOTH agreed that as unfair as it is, I cannot jeopardize my custody.  He understands and we are working through it.  And we both know if there is a hard "choice" to be made, it will be for us to break up rather than in any way affect my parenting agreement or my children's lives by uprooting them, leaving them behind, or abandoning them.  [/quote]

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