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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You need to find a mentor of some sort who can teach you more mature responses to the events and situations in your life.  Right now, you continue to behave like a teenager and you should be learning to cope with life situations better.  I would recommend you look for a mature family member who handles personal interactions well, or a clergy, an older more respectable friend, or even a professional to help you learn more mature responses to life situations or you will continue to live a life where everyday activities such as sharing photos, attending family events, or just routine interactions with your in-laws will create drama.  That is clearly not healthy for you and you need to get a handle on it before you child gets too old, otherwise, your child will also have dysfunctional personal relationships because they learn them from you.[/quote]

I'm already in therapy. Having DH handle his family is what my therapist suggested. He said if she said something on my Facebook that I needed to just delete her. Etc.[/quote]

Trimming down the thread.

The problem here is that you see something and you immediately react and often negatively.  You need some perspective and quick snap judgments are not giving you that perspective.  For example, your SIL makes a comment that is pretty innocuous.  You read into it with seven years of history that it's a slight and immediately unfriend her.  A more mature reaction?  Sit on it for a few hours or a day before you react.  Maybe you'll realize that she was just commenting on her son's attraction to his uncle without meaning a slight to you.  Or you can just be the bigger person and ignore it.  If after a day or so, you still feel strongly about it, then you can talk to her either on Facebook or in person and try to clear the issue up.  If you still can't get passed the situation and the slight, then you can unfriend her.

But the big problem is that you seem to be quite tempermental, quick to judge and react and continually take actions that cause drama and create more family tension.  You are in denial trying to blame the family issues on your in-laws without taking any responsibility for your immature and rash actions that contributed to the continued tensions with your family.  Your responses in 3 threads show how trigger-happy you are in responding negatively to anything that you perceive to be slight and you take offense easily.[/quote]

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