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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I want to stay / get back in shape for myself. It's a matter of self respect and maintaining standards. I am currently 7 months PP and still carrying 5 extra lbs compared to my normal weight, but I'll worry about it when I quit nursing (which I'm planning to do when DB turns 1). I don't obsess about it, but I do plan to have more children and I'm 33, so it's not going to get any easier to lose weight if I start letting it creep up.[/quote]

I never understood what a woman's weight or looks had to do with her self respect. So if a woman gains 5-10 pounds, she does not respect herself? So if she gets old and gets wrinkles and a turkey neck she does not respect herself? So all the chubby, older women out there do not respect themselves?

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Not caring about one's appearance, lack of grooming, letting oneself "go" are all signs of depression...  so yeah, in some cases it means that the person has little self respect.[/quote]

A woman gaining a few pounds or getting wrinkles as they age is not "letting oneself go".   :roll:   That's called reality.  Shooting yourself up with botox and starving yourself to chase that fountain of youth does not equal self-respect.

Also having depression does not equal having little self respect, it is an actual disease and often comes with a chemical imbalance within that can trigger it.

Letting oneself go, as can happen when someone is experiencing emotional problems such as depression, would be characterized as no longer showering, staying in pajamas all day everyday, not combing their hair, that sort of thing.  That is letting oneself go, not the NORMAL aging process.

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Yes, I think these women are posting from a younger perspective, thinking they will somehow not age. They probably don't respect as normal, the signs of age or older people, so they see old-looking people as having "let themselves go." I look around and see clean, healthy, happy, wrinkly old pudges dabbing on a little lipstick with a twinkle in their eye, and I do not think there's someone who's let themselves go and has no self-respect. Accepting normal processes of life and still loving who you are is the way to go.[/quote]

The Op of the quoted thread only talked about being in shape, not aging. [/quote]

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