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Well, OP,

for what it's worth, my husband has a low sex drive and doesn't need to ejaculate very often, and certainly less than once a week. It's been like this for years, we lived in a one bedroom apartment and a tiny house and spend days on end together with every minute accounted for: so it IS physically possible.

However I am happy with the low sex drive because mine is even lower.

I am very sorry you are not well-matched in that regard, and I hope you can explore other ways to regain intimacy in your marriage. It doesn't need to come from sex, and all the people telling you that sex is necessary for a happy marriage clearly haven't given it much thought.

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I posted the above.

My point is that in the event OP's husband is unable to augment his drive to match hers, which any doctor will tell you is very difficult, they can both explore ways to fulfill OP in non-traditional ways. There are books and therapists who can advise both of them, and they will likely make it work since they love each other. Or, OP can choose to leave.

There are so many families with issues in the world. Some people are paralyzed, some people have diseases, physical or mental, that affect their drive. And yet they make it work. What's hard is not making it work. What's hard is grieving the loss of what you thought you had, and letting go. Meditation can help with that. You're going to figure it out, OP. Don't despair.
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There you go, OP, just think of your husband's libido as paralyzed, at least as it comes to you.

Meditate on it if you have having difficulty with the concept.[/quote]

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