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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You sound like my mother.  Didn't function as an adult and blames depression or whatever and would not really get help.  Also, lazy and wouldn't do much around the house and 'worked' part-time.  Get your shit together and stop making excuses.  Honestly, I hope your husband and kids leave you because you don't deserve them.  You just don't.  They need someone who will step up to the plate when needed and you aren't it.  I sound harsh but this is how kids of mothers like this end up eventually, angry.   [/quote]

You are a sad pathetic poster with a sad pathetic life. [/quote]

No the poster sounds like she is giving OP the reality check she needs. This is who your kids will grow up to be if you don't deal
With your depression and your immaturity.   Your poor husband does resent you, don't kid yourself. Everyday he pushes through for the sake of his kids. He is probably terrified of what would happen to them if you had 50/50
Custody.   So he soldiers on.[/quote]

I'm the poster and having a mother who would not take care of her mental health was miserable for us growing up.  My parents eventually got a divorcee.  I remember being a teen and not having a medical issue taken care of for months, just one example of how my mother wasn't present.  When you have kids and a marriage you don't have the luxury of navel reflecting, you get the help you need and you contribute.  What is her husband supposed to just indefinitely put up with this?  Her kids are supposed to unconditionally love her even though she's not giving them enough in return.  Those of you who want to coddle her are delusional. [/quote]

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