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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My child is 6 and I have only been to ONE party where there was no "real food", just snacks and cake. It was at 1.30 and luckily my kid has eaten, but still! It was also a joint party for siblings. 
Please mention on the invite explicitly that you won't be serving food. I would have saved on gifts if I knew and brought some cute inexpensive stuff. I brought nice gifts for both birthday kids. [b]Felt I was lured into some gift grab thing (it was also at a playground, not a venue)[/b].[/quote]
You were lured? What a strange way of looking at it. Did the invitation not state that it was at a playground? [/quote]
Also, you gauge the amount you should spend on gifts based on venue and type of food served? That's so bizarre![/quote]

Yes it did but at least I expected some food!
And yes I have a budget, since it was a joint party I went beyond that budget, even though one of the kids is not even my child's friend, she is a sib who is tagged along and trying to "participate" in her brother's games with his friends. 
I was just annoyed by the whole setup. Usually I just bring a gift within my budget and don't overthink this. [/quote]

YOU decided to go over your budget.  I highly doubt the invitation demanded a minimum gift value.  Nor do I think it promised that dinner would be served.  They were apparently up-front that it was a sibling party (seeing as you bought gifts for both kids) and that it was at a playground (since you made it to the party).  YOU decided to accept the invitation to the sibling party, and to give a "nice" gift to both kids.  I doubt a "nice" gift for the sibling was required.  You probably could have brought a token gift and been just fine.  For that matter, you could have bought something on sale for both kids.

If you require quid pro quo for your gift, then:

A.  Don't call it a gift (something given without expectation), call it a trade.

B.  Don't ASSUME your artificial requirements will be met.  If something is that important to you, ASK.[/quote]

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